tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15907042508933812922024-03-13T19:58:43.979-07:00The UnlikelyDaffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-1097691867563451242014-06-11T09:08:00.000-07:002014-06-11T09:38:41.093-07:00Social ExperimentMy social experiment has been almost 14 years in the making, long before I knew I was performing a social experiment. I'll leave off all the normal disclaimers. What is working for me will undoubtedly not work in every situation, nor for every person who tries it. However, what I've learned is working. I thought it was something that I mostly employed in my chosen career, but as I continue experimenting, I'm finding many practical applications outside of education.<br />
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I started working in developmental education when I was 20, a senior in college. I had very little training in education, no formal training at all, and yet I instantly found a connection with my students. I was silly. I was often preposterous. Most of all, I genuinely enjoyed my students.<br />
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Developmental education on the college level has changed monikers several times throughout the years. Academic support, college preparatory. In a nutshell, I basically worked with students who had not been academically successful. Low test scores. Negative attitudes. Behavioral problems. Lack of study skills. Poor concept of education. Intuitively, I acted like they were all simply marvelous and diamonds in the rough who just need a bit of positive polishing here and there. Even back then, one of my favorite activities was taking a student no one else seemed to like much, and encouraging that person to shine.<br />
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Over a decade later, I'm still working in developmental education, but in a very different environment. I am still getting the students that other teachers have labeled troublesome, deficient, delayed, problem, behaviorally challenged. In fact, in 2004 I gave birth to a son who would go on to be similarly labeled by the public school system (Ha! Thanks, Universe, for giving me my very own test subject!).<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">My little social deviant in need of frequent in-school suspensions. In kindergarten. </td></tr>
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At my current place of employment, I was given a six year old referred for remediation. I could write pages on how I don't think a six year old should ever be told he needs remediation, but let's skip over that for a moment. A cursory glance through this boy's file will show a negative relationship with his teacher, behavioral frustrations, low performance on testing, and a hint that perhaps some emotional/behavioral/psychological testing is in the works. A cursory glance at the actual child will show you a very cute little boy, with a quirky smile and a vocabulary older than his years. Look a few extra moments at his eyes and you will see the insecurity, the uncertainty, the self-doubt and the questions lurking there. "Am I smart? Am I liked? Am I ok?"<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">He writes his S's backwards and spells "Pikshre" for "Picture." Adorable! </td></tr>
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I gave this kid a goofy nickname, started calling him "My favorite [insert child's name withheld to protect the innocent]" when he walked into my job, and began praising him every single time he did something right, while completely minimizing his mistakes. As he opened up to me, he would ask, "Am I smart, Miss Kara?" And I would grin from ear to ear and answer with a resounding, "So smart!" Now when he is working independently on his little phonics workbooks and manipulatives, I can just barely catch him whispering to himself, "I really am smart!"<br />
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Instinctively, I believe we should tell all six year olds that they are smart. Every single one of them.<br />
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I have a middle-schooler who is simply fantastic. Somewhere along the line she has been told she really stinks at math, so now she is in remediation for math. She has a flair for the dramatic (how's that for redundant: dramatic middle schooler!) and frequently puts herself down about how dumb she is. I think she is charming and nothing short of hilarious. At first, she was a little surprised I laughed at her jokes. Quite frankly, I was a little surprised everyone in the vicinity wasn't laughing at her jokes. Also, I take pictures of her drawings because they are awesome.<br />
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I have hundreds of these stories, stories of these kids I've worked with. The quirky little characteristics about them that I fall in love with and have no shame in telling them so. And as I love them (oh, yeah, I have to teach them sometimes, too), I start to see amazing things happen. I watch as they blossom. I see them gain confidence. What is more, I see their own developing confidence helping them so much more than just curriculum and drill-and-kill and worksheets and textbooks and even elaborate projects. I've been watching this phenomenon in my career for almost 14 years.<br />
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One day, an indefinite amount of time ago, I met someone I was instantly unfond of. You know how it is. You more than just "don't click" with someone. You pretty much off the bat can't stand them. It happens. It's regrettable. <br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">This is the face I used to give people when I didn't like them. And then I wondered why they didn't like me, either.<br />
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I had been thinking a lot about my positive success with students over the years, mostly about how just acting like I was thrilled to see them and thinking they are ever so smart and funny, and that they absolutely have something worthwhile to contribute changes them on an intrinsic level. And then I thought, what if -- WHAT IF! -- what if I started treating... wait for the epiphany... what if I started treating everyone like that? What if I started treating -- oh goodness, my brain is coming up with the impossible! -- people I don't like very much like that?<br />
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I'm game for social experiments. Why not? In all honesty, what's there to lose? I picked that one really hard-to-like person who had come unexpectedly into my life. This time, when I saw her, I smiled hugely and waved and generally acted extremely pleased to see her. When she said something funny, I laughed. Then one of the most interesting things happened. She began to not be so annoying. Or rather, I began to not be so annoyed by her. It's hard to pinpoint exactly who changed, her or me.<br />
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This social experiment is still in progress, but I think I'm on to something.Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-10011506057514835052013-02-14T12:14:00.000-08:002013-02-14T12:14:50.627-08:00Dismantling<br />
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Stripping off spandex<br />
or toga<br />
or laurel crowns<br />
Laying down scepters, and walking away<br />
A hero, the antagonist,<br />
head shaking as words muttered<br />
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What if the hero struggled<br />
Weighed the pros and cons<br />
Decided superpowers were too costly<br />
The world can't be saved today.<br />
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What if those heroes<br />
fallen from grace<br />
were weighted by their choice to give up<br />
but didn't know what else to do.<br />
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What if the choice<br />
were braver than to remain<br />
super-human strong<br />
noble.<br />
Valiant. <br />
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Hardly chivalrous to break<br />
fall, fail, flounder<br />
One half-hearted shove<br />
at marble walls,<br />
but really just not care<br />
to be anyone else's hero today.<br />
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One of these days, I'm going to get a real camera. I've tried getting real cameras as gifts for Christmas or my birthday in the past, but these gifts are never real cameras. When I get my real camera, I'm going to do something I love doing: Taking over 70 pictures at a time and finding 4 I actually like out of the bunch. Haha!</div>
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I took this one of the boy. He's hard to photograph because he's at the age where "Smile!" means pulling his lips unnaturally over his teeth and giving a wide-eyed psychopath expression. That can be cute sometimes... just... not very artistic to have 70 pictures that look something like this:</div>
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One can easily see that the first picture has a much softer, more artistic feel to it. I like it. It captures the sparkle in his eye and the glow to his naturally brown skin. While the second picture is good for a giggle. And to save to show future dates he brings home (insert low, maniacal laughing). </div>
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The girl is even harder to photograph. She loves posing for the camera, but her poses are a little too dramatic to translate well into pictures. That, and her facial expressions are intense and fierce, but don't include natural smiles very often. And she's two, so she moves. A lot. My best bet with her is to give her props to play with and stand back snapping picture after picture to hopefully get one good one. </div>
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She's my little imitator. She wants to do every single thing I do. It's humbling and adorable. So I give her my high heels. </div>
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What I really want when I take pictures though, is not to have pixilated end-products with low resolution. The blur ruins perfectly good moments. Like this one:</div>
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So I want a real camera. A good camera. A real, good camera (I dare someone to try to correct my grammar there...).</div>
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Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-77608455170097631582012-10-04T10:09:00.001-07:002012-10-04T10:09:36.971-07:00The New Confidence The scar is getting better, slowly but surely. It's still very noticeable, but I'm getting used to it.<br />
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I use helichrysum hydrosol and argan oil on it every day, but instead of the scar bothering me, I imagine all sorts of ridiculous scenarios. Like, painting my neck green and drawing on big stitch marks so that I look like Frankenstein's monster.<br />
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Or, draw eyes above it and make it a weird smiley face. This really makes me giggle.<br />
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My poor scar is so embarrassed when I blatantly ridicule it.<br />
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Now it wants to go incognito.<br />
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If I keep this up, it might go rogue on me, and then who knows what kind of fanged beast it will turn into.<br />
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Yes, I've taken to mercilessly making fun of my own scar. I do something similar in my college developmental writing class. When I get just <i>a little too excited </i>about grammar, I make fun of myself for my own enthusiasm. This kind of self deprecation is a good deflection.<br />
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If I'm making fun of myself, it kind of takes the steam out of anyone else making fun of me. Laughing at myself, I'm totally brave and confident.<br />
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(Except the sippy cup. I've mostly outgrown those)Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-83155251926896157192012-09-23T12:00:00.000-07:002012-09-23T12:09:16.518-07:00CreationI've remembered something in the past week and a half, something that I forgot was critical to my happiness and mental health: creating brings me inner peace and focus. Creating anything, really. I remembered that the times I am not making something are the times I am the lowest.<br />
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Writing proved to be a little tricky, so throughout the last week, I've thrown myself into creating. I wasn't even that intent on the product, but the process. Sitting at the table my grandmother just gave me, I made things, immersing myself for hours in a blissed-out world of creation.<br />
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First I made flowers. And then I put those flowers in my daughter's hair.<br />
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And speaking of my daughter's hair, she finally has enough to do this:</div>
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I suddenly have much more interest in my appearance. Before, make up never held my attention for long. I was ambivalent in my resignation that my hair would never be coiffed in anything resembling the latest fashions. I silently judged women who obsessed over their looks; surely they were superficial or insecure. Surely I was above all that.<br />
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And then I had my neck sliced open twice in ten days. Surgery left its mark.<br />
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I'm superficial enough to be bothered by the red raised scar at the base of my throat, insecure enough to want to compensate for its rawness in other ways. Concealer masking. Eye liner drawing attention up, away. Bronzer highlighting. Shimmers reflecting, lip gloss wet and inviting. I braid, twist, coil and curl my hair, accessorizing with flowers and ribbons and scarves.<br />
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To be honest, I'm not caring about impressing others. It is myself I am trying to distract. I don't want to look in the mirror and see the sad, scarred woman I am slowly morphing into. If I highlight the right areas, maybe the ones that shame me will be muted.<br />
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Maybe I can recreate my own self portrait. Perhaps I can twist and coil and curl the struggles with my health into something worthwhile. "Cancer survivor" sounds heroic and so much braver than I feel, but I can apply it to my list of attributes like a coat of mascara. "Survivor" is a liner I can draw all over myself, really -- depression survivor, sexual abuse survivor, drug abuse survivor. Natural, unassisted childbirth survivor. Fingernail biter survivor. Multiple body piercings survivor. Counting experiences I have come through or encountered that haven't killed me yet is almost exhilarating. Difficult situations somehow sparkle under the word "survivor."<br />
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My fragments of broken mirror can be pieced together in a Picasso-like mosaic, a girl before a looking-glass. A girl looking at all the different pieces: lines, marks, colors. I'm reading my reflection to understand who I am now.<br />
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Like make up, Picasso never held my attention before. Yet now, like bottles of powder and color and shimmer, he is relevant to my life changes. My changes in self perception.Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-82357512446994466692012-08-29T08:48:00.000-07:002013-05-04T17:48:10.838-07:00On Depression For me, depression has been a parasitic disease. It grips my neck with razor-sharp teeth and breathes heavy snarls in my ear. It plays Shrink and Regrow, almost disappearing entirely so that I forget it's there. Then it swells back up, thick and engorged like a giant mosquito drunk on my lifeblood.<br />
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Depression is an embarrassing parasite. I look around my home, my beautiful children, the things I have that so many others do without, my loving family, my network of caring friends. The shame of the disease adds up with many other negative emotions that float around me like a cloud of pollution: Self-loathing. Disappointment. Frustration. Anger. Grief. I often find it hard to breathe. Or, I just stop caring altogether. Apathy is embarrassing, too, so I pretend I care deeply and passionately about whatever it is I am supposed to care about.<br />
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"Fake it til you make it." I can't quite understand this philosophy. Not that I haven't tried it extensively. Feeling low? Just smile and be uplifted! Frustrated at the never-ending cycle? Whistle while you work! Don't feel like having sex with your spouse? Just say yes and go with the flow until it's all wonderful! I'd throw up at the saccharine optimism, but I really hate throwing up. I prefer to sneer with disdain, wrinkling the left side of nose and almost-smiling with sarcasm. Boy, I love who I have become. I've faked it more times than I can count, and I still haven't made anything that I can tell.<br />
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Self-loathing. That's the feeling that I know what I am supposed to be but I just can't quite swallow it into existence. Self-loathing settles like dust in that place in me that just doesn't understand how to actually make anything happen. I'm supposed to be happy. I don't know how. Self-loathing. I'm supposed to be loving, but I feel nothing. Self-loathing. I'm supposed to work hard, but I'm lazy. Self-loathing. I'm supposed to... but....<br />
I'm just a pile of gritty, grainy dust molecules. Gross and worthless. Wallowing in my own misery, hating myself for wallowing in my own misery.<br />
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Psychology suggests that expectation is the leading cause of disappointment. I feel about that similarly as I do about "fake it until you make it" which is to say, I hate it. I hate it because I'm disappointed. I'm disappointed that I'm not doing more with my life, that I'm not a missionary in another country or doing life-changing work in my community, or creating something of intrinsic value or... something. I'm disappointed that being married is so difficult, and that I don't know if I'm parenting well at all because my children seem rather soft and spoiled. I'm mostly disappointed that I don't enjoy life, living, barely at all. I feel perfectly justified in expecting that things should be better than what they are right now, but I'm disappointed that I don't even know where to begin to make changes.<br />
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Ignorance is frustrating. I don't know what to do, and I don't know where to find the answers. I look for answers, but I don't understand them. I'm frustrated that I can't seem to pull myself together. Frustration and anger are conjoined twins vying for the same vital organs. They twist the stomach and harden into a lump in the chest cavity. I can't tell where one ends and the other begins. They just are.<br />
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Then, of course, there's the grief. Grief first stutters and struggles to convey itself. Then it settles into a sadness that never truly goes away. Grief for things lost. People. People who died, or people who moved away, or people who simply floated out my my life the same way they seemed to float in. No matter where they went, they are gone, and their absences are wounds stitched closed and scarred over. I grieve for lost ideals and hopes that never surfaced. I grieve for beliefs that proved untrue. Grief is forever a collar around my neck that I feel when I try to stray farther than my chains allow. I cannot follow the things lost.<br />
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I was once wild and untamed. I still have echoes of my former determination, so I will take my antidepressant, and swallow some vitamins, and do a few exercises to release endorphin. I will read the self-help books and other books for enjoyment. I'll play with my children and smile at my husband and go to church. I'll do my yoga breathing and call my mother. I'll do the laundry and cook dinner and vacuum the living room floor, over and over. I'll scratch at that parasite, and hold out hope that at some point in my life I will find the answers I seek.<br />
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Oh, and today is my birthday. Happy birthday to me.<br />
<br />Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-8577633619704925772011-06-28T14:18:00.000-07:002013-05-04T17:48:10.839-07:00La La... Lollies!For the past few days, I've been playing with five very beautiful children. Of course, I'm biased; those five children came from the wombs of my sister and me. Since I think they are all as sweet as can be, I decided to do a fun little project: Homemade lollipops.<br />
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The concept is really quite simple. I went to Michael's and spent only $11 on more than enough supplies (it could have been cheaper, but I got the fancy foil wrappers...). And as an added bonus -- Teachers get 15% off! Whippee! I purchased the following:<br />
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<ul><li>a bag of assorted Jolly Ranchers</li>
<li>a bag of old fashioned cherry hard candy</li>
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When I used to work my Dream Job, I would often counsel with students who were struggling beginning to write a paper. So often over the years I heard, "I just don't know where to start!" Perhaps somewhere along their life journeys they heard the absolutely wretched advice to "begin at the beginning... and go on till you come to the end: then stop" (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0451527747/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=theun01-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399369&creativeASIN=0451527747">Alice's Adventures in Wonderland</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=&l=as2&o=1&a=0451527747&camp=217145&creative=399369" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important;" width="1" />). My go-to counsel for such a frustration was simply this: Start anywhere! Start in the middle, or even at the end! You can always go back and build around wherever you start. Sometimes it would take a lot of coaxing to get a student to relax enough to start writing a paper <i>in the middle. </i>Wasn't that cheating or somehow not following the rules? In one of my finer moments in teaching (tongue in cheek) I told my students that freewriting was like Outback Steakhouse. No rules. Just write (/tongue in cheek). I saw many students go from frustrated and bound with tight ropes by writer's block to writing fabulous papers.<br />
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*Ahem* I give others such very good advice... Why don't I follow it? I allow fear of failure to dictate how much of my life I am really living. I allow fear of getting in over my head to keep me from actually trying to accomplish my goals and desires.<br />
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I'm mostly at home, unconventionally educating my son, chasing the tot... always getting someone a snack, always taking on the Laundry Monster (whose hp continuously regenerates), forever picking up toys and putting them in bins, only to turn around and see that one kid or the other has dragged out 10 more.<br />
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Even as I sit on the couch to write, I have my daughter offering me toys, and she resorts to bellowing when I'm not interested in pushing the buttons on her pretend phone for the 100th time. She's so offended that I would want to carve out a few minutes to write or check my email or stare blankly off into space pondering how I can survive the crazy years with my sanity intact. She hands me the phone, again, and I push a button, again, and she giggles over the obnoxiously peppy music that erupts from the speaker. Again. She's heard that perky tune 101 times now in the last 10 minutes. Why is she still giggling? Why doesn't she throw down the toy in disgust and say she can't listen to it one more time without being committed to the looney bin? She holds some secret I've forgotten.<br />
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I realize that I want to learn from her, even as I constantly mold her young, forming mind. She's watching me -- brush my hair, cook dinner, read to her brother, scoop up handfuls of small wooden fruit and put them away in the small, pretend market basket. And I watch her -- tuck her favorite doll under her arm as she searches for a hair brush, stand at her play kitchen piling play dishes in the play sink, hold a book in front of her doll's face, tuck the pretend market basket in the cabinet where it belongs.<br />
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We do this every day. And it is spectacular. If I could freeze these moments, I would want to go back a hundred or more times to look at them, to remember with fondness the wonder of this experience. Even though the daily grind can get monotonous and tiresome in its tediousness, I'm encouraged to grind away at these beans anyway.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"<i>Nobody said it was easy</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i>No one ever said it would be this hard</i>" The Scientist, Coldplay. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I was poking around some of my old music this past weekend, and came across my Coldplay collection. Coldplay is one of the few mainstream bands I can listen to without cringing these days (thanks to my Husbeast for turning me into a music snob), and several of the band's songs have especially memory-provoking attributes for me. Rob and I danced to "Green Eyes" at our wedding, so that song can almost always bring on a nostalgic tear or two. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"<i>Honey you should know</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i>That I could never go on without you</i>"</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> When Annabelle was wee and jaundiced, I used to sing "Yellow" to her... </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"<i>Your skin </i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i>Oh yeah your skin and bones </i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><i>Turn into something beautifu</i>l"</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">There's something soothing about simple, heartfelt songs with meaningful yet uncontrived lyrics. When I listened to "The Scientist" again, I sat and pondered the difficulty of life at times. I know I haven't chosen the easier paths of least resistance in many cases. Often, I choose more challenging directions in life because I believe them to be more noble, more rewarding in the long run, more in line with my beliefs about life, love, parenting, generosity, peace on Earth... goodwill toward humankind and all that. Nobody said it would be easy. But wow, I didn't know it was going to be this hard. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I had a conversation with Rob this weekend about the weather (aren't we a profound couple?). Tallahassee isn't known for its idyllic weather. Oh no, Tallahassee has despicable weather. It's chilly and dreary in the winter (but with no snow), and it's hotter and more humid than an arm pit in the summer. However, for a few very short weeks in the spring, and even fewer shorter weeks in the fall, Tallahassee has breathtakingly lovely, soul-nourishing weather. Those are the weeks when it is pleasure to be alive, sucking in cool crisp clean air and feeling warm beautiful sunshine on skin. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Rob and I decided we were ready for for a little spring in our lives, a period of less stress, less blood sweat and tears, a time when we can just sit back and take a breather, even if just for a short while. It's hard to find that place in between too cold and too hot, much harder than one might imagine. But then again, nobody said it was easy. </span><br />
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</span>Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-35631767561351904442010-11-12T20:07:00.000-08:002013-05-04T17:48:10.681-07:00Miso CraftyMy attempts at being crafty are usually dismal failures. This truth has no bearing my my attempts.<br />
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Today's fun, messy, somewhat-successful project was dyeing three playsilks using koolaid and vinegar.<br />
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I started out with 2 cups of water, 1/2 cup of vinegar, and a blank silk scarf. Exhibit A:<br />
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I was going for a purple color, so I mixed Black Cherry and a Blue Something Or Other Koolaid packets. The red definitely prevailed, and as I was stirring the mixture, I suddenly was reminded that this very same bowl caught my placenta when Annabelle was born. Good memories. Exhibit B:<br />
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I microwaved for three minutes, cooled for two minutes, and microwaved again for three minutes. I then soaked it in vinegar, and gave it a cool bath under some running water. After drying... Exhibit C:<br />
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Not too bad for an uncrafty craft-wanna-be!<br />
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I wanted something kind of teal/turquoise, so I mixed blue and green packets of koolaid. I could tell right away that the green would prevail (blue koolaid is totally weak. Next time I'll double the blues.)<br />
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But the green is pretty nonetheless.<br />
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The smell of baking koolaid enticed Micah into the kitchen. He wanted to try it too. This time I mixed two oranges and one pink.<br />
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I had to tell him several times that the mixture, as fruity as it smelled, would not taste good. He had fun stirring and microwaving, though.<br />
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I ran out of koolaid, but I am going to do this again! It's fun, and it worked!Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-65322185864591356772010-08-20T17:32:00.000-07:002013-05-04T17:48:10.685-07:00Out-Bound Homebody<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial;">I</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">'ve been thinking about my life these last 9 months I've been a mother to two children, and if there is one word to describe this point in the life of my family, "homebodies" would correctly articulate our lives for four reasons:</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">1. In May of '09, I left my beloved job of nine years to become a stay-at-home mom; </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">2. In August of '09, my husband started working for his company at home rather than their business office; </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">3. In November of '09, I home-birthed my daughter; and</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">4. In January of '10, I pulled my son out of public Kindergarten and began our homeschooling journey.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">If that doesn't make us homebodies, I'm not entirely sure what else we could do to epitomize that sentiment. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">As I approach my return to the workforce, I feel a nostalgic sense of how my life has been exponentially enriched by a life that is considered reclusive to much of mainstream society. During this time, I have </span><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Three years ago (to the month), I wrote about being on the verge of a great and monumental, life-changing cliff. Two months after writing that, I began a relationship with a young man who became my husband and father to my daughter. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><span style="line-height: 115%;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Today I have that feeling again: On the cusp of some life-changing happenstance (perhaps more cerebral this time), and again, I pray that I will have the strength, determination, and insight to deal appropriately and graciously with circumstances as they arrive. There comes a time when I have to leave the safety net of my home-bound perspective, and I am humbly thankful for the time I had to grow in understanding and be enriched by my homebody family. </span></span><br />
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</span>Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-67510013479997018432010-08-09T18:12:00.001-07:002013-05-04T17:48:10.686-07:00The Unlikely Pizza PitDaffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-26988701700754953892010-08-04T19:59:00.000-07:002013-05-04T17:48:10.680-07:00World Breastfeeding WeekThis week is world breastfeeding week, and while I am not partaking in many festivities this year (other than the obvious: nursing my 9 month old), I'm happy to take this time to reflect on my breastfeeding journey.<br />
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I was 24 years old and single when my first child was born. I came to a vague decision while pregnant that I would try to nurse my baby for two main reasons: 1. It would be cheaper than using formula 2. It was natural. I didn't feel very strongly one way or another about it.<br />
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After my son was born, my mother came to stay with me the first week. It was a hellacious week. As "natural" as breastfeeding is, there was a huge learning curve for me. I had cracked and bleeding sores where no woman wants cracked and bleeding sores. Every nursing session was excruciating. I dreaded every time my baby boy woke up to nurse -- and he woke up every 45 minutes around the clock.<br />
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Near the end of the first week, I got up to nurse the baby. I sat down in the rocking chair my mother had lovingly refurbished for me and her first grandchild. When he latched on, I screamed in pain and thrust him away from me, very nearly dumping him in my mother's arms, sobbing incoherently. <i>Just give him a bottle. I'm through with this. </i>My mother encouraged me to give it another chance. She leaned over me and tried to correct the baby's lazy latch. That night I sat in the rocker and grit my teeth through the pain, determining right there and then to see this through to the end. I think it was that night I became a lactivist.<br />
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Despite the Unlikelihood of my success at breastfeeding -- a young, single, working mother -- I went on to meet my initial goal of nursing for 12 months, and then I went on to meet my secondary goal of nursing for 24 months.<br />
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Fast forward five and a half years from that night I became a breastfeeding advocate; I birthed a 6lb baby girl on my own bed in my own house. Moments after she was born, I placed her at the breast, confident that I could overcome the difficulties I faced with my son almost six years prior. Sure, nipples got sore, but I repositioned and re-latched until it felt better.<br />
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And then something was wrong. Two days, no wet or dirty diapers. Three days. Baby girl screamed painfully in between bouts of fitful sleep. Over a pound lost of her initial birth weight. Pediatrician visits. Heel pricks. The "Black Diaper Bag of Doom" -- filled to the brim with formula samples and serious conversations about failure to thrive, and "we'll have to hospitalize if this doesn't resolve...". But I was a <i>lactivist</i>. I had read the breastfeeding boards on Mothering.com for <i>years</i>. I took one look at my precious baby girl's gaunt, yellow face and warmed the formula and handed it over to my husband to syringe-feed our daughter. And I understood why some people give up. If not the sore nipples, the hungry baby.<br />
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Homeopathics, tinctures, hours hooked up to the double electric hospital pump squeezing out nothing but drop after disappointing drop, and nothing short of sheer unadulterated determination, and I am still successfully nursing my baby girl nine months later. I am three months from my initial goal of nursing for a year. I'm already planning on making our secondary goal.<br />
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If someone were to ask me why breastfeeding is so important to me, I might have a hard time coming up with an answer that makes sense. Sure, it is the biological norm for feeding a mammal infant. There's no denying that fact. Yet not as easy to enumerate, the bond I have with my nurslings is unequivocal and irreplaceable; the pride I have in providing nourishment for my babies is a warm, peaceful comfort in the often hectic, hormonal, harried days of motherhood. My baby's obvious lack of sickness in her short life in a nice bonus, and being able to calm many of life's bumpy moments with a snuggle and some milk is often reason enough alone for me to continue toward my goals. And if I am going to be perfectly honest, there's the lovely excuse of "I'm nursing the baby" to get out of other duties and responsibilities as I recline on the bed cuddling the cutest baby girl I ever birthed.<br />
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Reflecting on the journey of motherhood, and consequently nursing, is celebration enough of World Breastfeeding Week to me. That, and blogging while my little one nurses to sleep curled in the crook of my arm, peaceful and innocent.<br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">(Now I'm off to go peruse <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #462947; font-family: verdana, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #462947; font-family: verdana, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><a href="http://www.elegantmommy.com/" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #a44686; font-family: inherit; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank">www.elegantmommy.com</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #462947; font-family: verdana, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> --</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: verdana, geneva, lucida, 'lucida grande', arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> I hear they're having a 25%off sale Bravado!)</span></div>Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1590704250893381292.post-22371565660175417742010-05-10T13:42:00.000-07:002013-02-16T21:28:48.529-08:005 Minute Chocolate Tires.<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1731.jpg"><br /></a>A delicious aspect of homeschooling is that, on occasion, one can sleep in until 11:30 and stay in one's pajamas until past noon, and better yet, decide to eschew the normal book work, handwriting practice, and paper crafts and decide to... bake cake instead. Today was that day for me.<div><br /></div><div>Of course, this is The UNlikely. That means it won't turn out the way I imagined it in my head. That's the way it goes.<br /><div><br /></div><div>After much deliberation and a serendipitous encounter with a Facebook page devoted to the <a href="http://www.facebook.com/?ref=logo#!/pages/5-MINUTE-CHOCOLATE-MUG-CAKE/85427078942">5 Minute Chocolate Mug Cake</a>, I told Micah that today's lesson was <i>very special</i>. Home Economics is special. Cake is special. Chocolate is special. And a 5 minute lesson is special. Go us! </div><div><br /></div><div>First, we assembled the ingredients: </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1731.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1731.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>Micah added all the dry ingredients and stirred. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1738.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1738.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>meanwhile, I moved the almost-crawling wiggly baby from her escape path</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1732.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1732.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div>and back on to her play mat. "I a goo girl, Mama. I stay where put... "</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1733.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1733.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>Micah was still busy stirring. </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1740.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1740.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>We added the egg. "It looks like a juicy eyeball, Mommy!" </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1741.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1741.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>We dumped in the milk and vanilla extract, and Micah stirred it without <i>too </i>much mess. I added some mini marshmallows on top, just for good measure. </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1744.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1744.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>I forgot to time our endeavor. All of that should have taken two minutes, according to the 5 Minute Chocolate Mug Cake gurus. </div><div><br /></div><div>We put the mug in the microwave and set it for 3 minutes. During those three minutes I...</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1746.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1746.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div>...put away the ingredients</div><div>... Said "not yet" three times to the question, "Is it done yet?"</div><div>...Sliced a strawberry for my soon-to-be delicious chocolate cake</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1751.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1751.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div>... Picked up the baby and put her in her high chair with a toy</div><div>... Picked up the toy she threw down 4 times</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1745.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1745.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>The microwave <i>dinged. </i>Micah and I cautiously opened the door to see...<i> </i></div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1750.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1750.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div>...Uh. OK, not what I expected. </div><div><br /></div><div>Maybe if I put it out onto the plate it will look more appetizing?</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1753.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1753.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><i>Excuse me</i>, but I think someone's pet Martian defecated on my china-ware. </div><div><br /></div><div>OK, if I cut it in half and put pretty red strawberries on it...</div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1754.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1754.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div>It'll still kind of look like poop. </div><div><br /></div><div>Annabelle is disgusted. Micah is intrigued and tempted by the chocolate. </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1755.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1755.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>So he decides to eat the strawberry part first. </div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1756.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1756.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>And the rest can only be said with pictures. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1759.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1759.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1757.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1757.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://s145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/?action=view&current=IMG_1758.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i145.photobucket.com/albums/r213/ExuberantDaffodil/photojournalism/IMG_1758.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>I commend my boy for tasting it. He insists it tasted good. I dubiously tasted a corner of it, and Andrew Zimmern critiqued my cake in my head: "MM-hmm. Rubbery. Semi-truck tires with just a hint of chocolate. Fantastic." </div><div><br /></div><div>And so yet again, the UNlikely hits my latest project. It isn't pretty. It's barely edible. I documented the process diligently and ... am still unpopular. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div>Daffodyllichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977858496259110446noreply@blogger.com3